The Tale of Two Dogs
A reminder about the benefits of positive
reinforcement
Used with permission of Joel H. Weldon &
Associates, Inc.
http://www.SuccessComesInCans.com
As a first time dog owner, he failed. He
would call, "Ginger!" but Ginger wouldn't respond. She
continued wandering and sniffing bushes, as dogs are wont to
do, and only return when she wanted to, which was neither
soon nor quick enough to suit him. And when she did come
back, he was furious. He would grab her collar, shake her
and yell, "BAD dog! You come when I call!" But she gradually
became even less inclined to respond and he grew more
frustrated, until one day he left the dog on a friend's farm
where she could run free.
Enter dog number
two-Dusty. By now our friend, the misguided dog-lover, had
matured such that he remained calm even when Dusty ignored
his commands. He just waited until Dusty did respond, then
he lavished praise and affection upon her. He would hug her
and pat her and say, "GOOD dog, Dusty!" Thus Dusty quickly
learned that being obedient was a pleasant experience, and
she became an exceptionally obedient dog, which made her
master a happy dog-owner.
The difference? It
wasn't the dogs. It was the way they were treated-one
negatively, one positively. And if positive reinforcement
worked with Dusty, wouldn't it be equally effective with
people?
Behavioral scientists
answer that question with an emphatic YES, saying that when
a person does something and is immediately rewarded, he or
she will tend to do it again-consciously or unconsciously
seeking further positive reinforcement.
You can test this
theory by asking yourself how you feel when someone tells
you . . .
"Your report to
the committee was excellent. Thanks for being so complete,
yet so concise."
"Your office is a haven for the confused. It's always so
neat and well-organized."
"Your quick action saved that account. We're grateful to
you."
How do you feel?
Naturally, you feel pleased and proud. You feel more
commitment to those who recognized and rewarded you for your
effort -and your inclination is to work even harder.
That's nothing
profound, of course. You've known about the benefits of
positive reinforcement all your life. But now that you've
been reminded of them...
Here's what you can
do:
Look for opportunities
to give positive reinforcement. If a loved one doesn't keep
in touch as often as you'd like, don't complain. Instead,
wait until he or she does call, then say, "It's great to
hear from you! Your phone calls brighten my day!"
Next time you watch a
football game, notice how teammates pat, hug and praise each
other when they perform well. Likewise, whenever those on
your "team" perform well, give them the positive
reinforcement they deserve.
Timing is important. Be
quick about it! Saying to your mate, "You looked wonderful
last Thursday night," is of no value.
And don't forget
yourself. Actress Ruth Gordon said, "An actor has to have
compliments and positive reinforcement. If I go long enough
without getting a compliment, I compliment myself and that's
just as good-because at least then I know it's sincere!"
JOEL H. WELDON &
ASSOCIATES, INC. http://www.SuccessComesInCans.com
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